The main focus in February tends to be on relationships, love and all that jazz so I wanted to touch on something we may sometimes find ourselves putting in place in the different relationships we have – Boundaries.
We all have some boundaries in place. Whether we make others aware of them or don’t is a different story but let’s be real, we all have our limits on how far we can be pushed. The issue I find with boundaries a lot of the time is that we may not be vocal about them, hence giving others the leeway to overstep them.
Do you have boundaries in place in your relationships and are you vocal about them? Let me know in the comments section below.
Before I get into listing my reasons why we need to have boundaries in place, let’s see how google defines a boundary. A boundary is simply defined on google as a
line which marks the limit of an area; a dividing line.
Therefore, a boundary in a relationship basically means a distance that sets you apart from you and those you have relationships with.
Boundaries are essentially our own rule book we give to people to let them know what we are willing to accept and not accept.
So now that we’ve got the definition covered, I hope we are all slowly starting to see why we need to have those boundaries in place and also why we need to especially be vocal about them.
So why do we need to have boundaries in place again?
Reason Number 1
People will have no qualms walking over them if you don’t make it apparent.
One thing about humans is that…we have a lot of audacity and are always on the prowl to see how far we can go with everything. This is why it is so important for us to have boundaries in place and be vocal about them as it quite simply limits the tomfoolery.
Having that space between you and the relationships you’re in whether that’s at work, within your friendships or a romantic relationship and making it apparent means that others are less likely going to feel comfortable easily overstepping them.
Don’t get me wrong, some people will still try their hand…because…humans…but you will find that you won’t get as many people doing so as you would if you had none in place or weren’t vocal about them.
Reason Number 2
You’ll end up taking on so much more that you can handle
With boundaries come limits and one thing I have realised is that having boundaries in place within the different relationships we have is literally a way of us taking care of ourselves and putting ourselves first. I say that simply because we know our body and therefore know how much we can and can’t take on. Having those boundaries in place and being vocal about them means that you limit the amount of times you overstep what you can’t take. For example, if I am being asked to constantly take on so much work in the workplace and I know I can’t but I am not vocal about it, I will find myself constantly overstepping my own limits and probably will end up being under so much stress or experiencing burn out.
Reason Number 3
The ball is in your court
This is quite similar to the point made above but setting boundaries in the different relationships we have helps us determine and decide how we’d like to be treated by others. We’re able to set in stone what we are willing to tolerate and what we’re not willing to tolerate which makes life a lot easier for us. This way we’re also able to decide what situations we’d like to put ourselves in prior to entering them as we can see whether it fits us or doesn’t fit us.
Reason Number 4
Needed for us to thrive in our relationships
Every relationship needs to have a healthy set of boundaries in order to thrive so you cannot go wrong with setting boundaries. Being able to establish boundaries within relationships means that you are both able to define where one ends and where the other begins, hence helping both parties involved work better together and communicate better with one another.
Boundaries are also required for healthy relationships as they help us take another person’s feelings and perspectives into account especially when it comes to decision making. That way, all decisions made are mutually beneficial for all parties involved.
Reason Number 5
People may not even be aware
People may not even be aware that they are overstepping your boundaries and that’s why it’s super important to have them and vocalise them. That way, those you surround yourself with are able to understand what they can ask you to do or even involve you in.
We have come to the end of this and I hope this post serves as a reminder for us to start setting those boundaries in place for all the different relationships we’ve got going on whether that’d be at work, friendships or relationships.
Lastly, I really hope you enjoyed this post and please let me know your thoughts down below in the comments section.