How To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others

Playing the comparison game is something that we’ve probably all done at least once in our lives but let me tell you this now, it can get extremely unhealthy real quick. 

We’ve all been there. You see someone celebrating a huge milestone or simply talking about something they’ve achieved and you think “why am I not there yet?” or “what exactly am i doing wrong?”.

It’s normal to simply want the best for ourselves but there’s a thin line… actually a very thick line between wanting better for yourself and just going about it in an extremely unhealthy manner. 

Constantly comparing ourselves to others is something we’ve got to drum in our heads to stop doing but then there comes the question…what steps can we actually take to stop doing this?

Things always seem easier said than done, don’t they? But don’t worry, today I’ll be sharing 8 things we can do to stop ourselves from constantly playing that comparison game so let’s get into it.


Number one – Know yourself and what sets you off

It’s very important to firstly know what triggers you or leads you down the path of comparison so you can either avoid it or find better ways to deal with it.

With every problem we have, the first step is usually identifying what makes the problem worse right? Right, so let’s do the same in this instance.

For a lot of us, social media plays a huge role or usually tends to be a trigger so perhaps our first step could simply be unfollowing and muting accounts that make us feel bad about ourselves or lead us down this path.

Always remember that we usually curate our own feeds so take your power back and get rid of accounts that trigger this.


Number two – Remember that you’re comparing your behind the scenes with someone else’s highlight reel.

We all show other people what we want them to see especially on social media, so stop feeling bad about your life or yourself because of something another individual has shared. 

You have no idea of what’s going on behind the scenes but yet you’re so quick to want someone’s life or start comparing yourself to them?

Remember that you’re always exposed to your own behind the scenes whilst simultaneously being exposed to everyone else’s highlight reel. Take that in at all times and stop with the comparisons.


Number three – Be happy for others

Learn to be happy for others. It’s super easy to see a friend or a colleague or anyone we know celebrating a huge milestone and start comparing our journey to them but that isn’t how we should be operating. 

Always choose happiness and peace of mind and learn to be happy for others.

The energy you put out in the universe is the energy you get back so stop blocking your blessings and start being happy for others rather than going straight to comparison.


Number four – Start practising gratitude

It is so easy to find yourself dismissing all that you have achieved all in the name of comparison. 

Start looking into your life and all that you have going well for yourself. 

For example, you can start or end your day by writing down a few things that you’re grateful for.

Doing this can help you see all the good that is happening in your life and also help you shift the focus back onto yourself and on your life rather than on other people and their journeys.


Number five – Let other people’s success and achievements motivate you 

Rather than seeing what others have achieved and immediately reaching for the comparison torch, why not use what they’ve achieved as motivation to keep going and keep working? 

Let other people’s success serve as a reminder to you of the many amazing possibilities in this world and what you can achieve when you put your mind to things.


Number six – Remind yourself of your own priorities

Sometimes we may even start comparing ourselves to people who’s visions and priorities are completely different to us. 

You see another person has hit 10,000 followers on Instagram and you immediately start comparing your milestone to their milestone even though gaining a huge following has never been a huge priority of yours or part of your vision. 

Stop right there, go back to the drawing board, get your priorities in check and start again. Keep reminding yourself of the things you value or are part of your vision and stop letting things outside of that bother you.


Number seven – Only compare yourself with you

Rather than constantly comparing yourself to others, why not start  comparing yourself to you?

In doing this, you’ll not only see how great you’re doing but also how far you’ve come. 

It’ll also help remind you of all the hard work you’ve put in and also encourage you to celebrate the all the milestones you may find yourself brushing off.


Number eight – There will always be something

Remember that there will always be something to compare ourselves with even if we achieve what we’re currently after.

Let that sink in and choose peace of mind. 

Who wants to live a life where they’re constantly comparing themselves to other people all the time? Not me! 

Always understand that the goal post will always shift and it’s not going to be healthy constantly playing the comparison game. 

That brings me to the end of this post and I really hope you all enjoyed the few points I shared. I hope this helps anyone who is looking to escape the dark comparison hole.

I will love to also get some of your thoughts on comparison and whether you’ve found yourself doing it before? Leave a comment below and let’s talk!



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